The Jim Rohn quote “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” has been something I’ve become more aware of over the past few years. And I feel it runs true. The more time I spend with high energy, positive people, the more energy and motivation I tend to develop for myself.
A lot of the people that we end up spending time with can occur due to convenience (they live nearby) or history (friends from childhood) and a lot of the time we tend to settle with this. The problem here is that it’s hard to get to where you want to be when everyone around you is going in the opposite direction.
A cool thing I’ve noticed over the past few months is moving in the direction you want to go in starts to attract more like minded people into your path. An example for me is this past weekend Austin. I completed the GMB trainer apprenticeship from August – December 2016 and this past weekend I got to learn from Ryan, Jarlo and Andy and meet all the other trainers.
As a coach GMB’s approach resonates with me. I’m not saying it’s a better way across the board, I’m saying it’s the best way for me. It also has a group of amazing coaches and cool people. It’s a community I feel i will continue to grow in long term.
With fitness there so many different ways to accomplish your goals. You can get stronger and leaner through crossfit, bodybuilding, running… the list is endless. What’s important is that the path is right for you.
This crosses over into all parts of your life. If you want to improve in a certain area you need to surround yourself with people who are where you want to be.
Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
Reassessing your friendships from time to time is a good option. Just take some time and reflect on the people who are around you. Are you the one always trying to motivate everyone else? Do you leave encounters feeling tired and demotivated? Do you feel your conversations lack substance? Is it all just shallow jokes and never anything that makes you feel excited or safe to be vulnerable?
If you answered yes to any of the above, it may be time to look for new circles of friends. It won’t happen straight away but what I’ve found is the more I move in the direction I want to get to, the more people come into my path. People I want to hang out with, learn from and help.
This is my path and what I want to explore and experience. My question to you is what do you want? What people do you want to spend more time with?
The key is to start moving in that general direction. People will start to appear along the path, but you need to start moving first, otherwise you won’t be found.