Happy 5-Flex Friday!

First, here’s what’s new in my world this week. Please click to find out more:

1: I almost quit the fitness industry – new blog
2: Building an army of raving fans with GMB Fitness – Andy Fossett – Blog
3: A Masterclass on Injury, pain management and rehab – Joe Gambino – podcast

2 Fitness Concepts

On doing hard things:

In the past 3 years, I’ve built the business of my dreams, recorded almost 90 episodes, and interviewed my heroes on my podcast, wrote my first book, started free diving, learned Spanish and Latin dancing, & helped hundreds of clients across the world get into optimal health. I’m a very average guy, so when I reflect on all this, it’s hard to believe sometimes.

What’s allowed this to happen is my ability to do hard things consistently. Being able to show up when it feels uncomfortable is the most powerful skill you can develop. The trap I always fell into was not understanding how to manage how I responded to difficult things.

You see, when things get difficult, YOU WILL FAIL. This is when I used to always quit, yet this is where the magic happens. Once I started understanding that failure was part of success, I just kept showing up.

Spanish has been very challenging for me. As a native English speaker, you are always in a dominant position with language, and feeling incompetent and unable to find the right words pushed me so far out of my comfort zone.

I have wanted to quit so many times this year. But bringing myself back to embracing failure and sitting with it has been such a game-changer.

The level of discomfort I’ve exposed myself to this year with dancing and Spanish has made the things I used to find hard feel easy. It’s like getting stronger in the gym; your psychological resiliency can also expand.

2. Is it normal to feel this way, this time of year?

I had a good check-in call with a client this week, and they reflected on their awareness this year versus previous years. One thing they noted was they felt lower energy and not as motivated but acknowledged, this is a pattern that has happened every year when the clocks change and it gets darker.

In previous years, they’d get frustrated and panicked and spiral with food and their thoughts. They’d spend these winter months beating themselves up. This year they were able to observe and acknowledge this pattern.

Instead of panic, they just reset expectations to more manageable workouts and set clear rules around food that were easy to adhere to.

So if you feel the same, a good question to ask yourself is: “Do I always feel tired at this time of year?”. If the answer is yes, you might want to reset your expectations for what’s realistic.

2 Mindset Nuggets

What’s the opportunity?

I had a great call with a client this week. He’s going through some extremely challenging health issues that have changed his life. It would be easy for him to wallow in self-pity because the medical news he received is so unfair, yet he’s reframed it to “what’s the opportunity from this?”.

This video from Jocko is phenomenal. (Side note: it’s also important to acknowledge challenges versus always seeking the opportunity in every challenge).

What is your opportunity in your challenges?

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Everyone struggles

When you realize that even the people who seem to have the perfect life struggle, it makes everything much easier. Common humanity is a term I learned from Kristen Neff’s work on self-compassion, and it teaches you that how you’re feeling right now is how millions of others feel. You are not alone in your struggles and failures.

So keep showing up and embrace those setbacks and failures!

1 Quote to Consider

“Children have a lesson adults should learn, to not be ashamed of failing, but to get up and try again. Most of us adults are so afraid, so cautious, so ‘safe,’ and therefore so shrinking and rigid and afraid that it is why so many humans fail. Most middle-aged adults have resigned themselves to failure.”

― Malcolm X.

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-Conor